Even though there are several different methods out there to win love back, it’s still important to start with basics. Two things that are vital to successfully repairing a broken relationship are confidence and a game plan. All relationships have their own sets of ups and downs, and each one has different challenges.
As a result, a slightly different set of solutions will be needed to make things right again, but that doesn’t mean you have to try to do it alone. Sure, some of the advice you get may not apply directly to your situation, but the trick is to use whatever you can in a way that works best for you. There are no one size fits all solutions, and having a good grasp of the basics will help you get back together with your ex.
Your friends and family may have excellent advice based on their past experiences. That’s the problem. It’s always based on their past experiences, not yours. Every relationship has slightly different dynamics, and no two people are alike. So, be gracious, and remember that they are only trying to help. Use whatever advice applies to your situation, and don’t worry about the rest. With that in mind, here are some of the basics you can use to rebuild your relationship.
Your first reaction to a break up may be to talk to your ex into getting back together with you. Wait! Not so fast! First, you both need some time to relax and come to terms with what has really happened. If you act too quickly, and your ex isn’t ready, then you will be doing more harm than good. Second, you don’t want to come across as being desperate. By calling constantly, even with the best of intentions, you will appear needy and desperate. Doing these things won’t make your ex interested in getting back with you, and may only serve to push them farther away.
Another one of the basics is honesty. You have to be honest with yourself and your ex if you want to have a serious chance to win love back. Not only is it the right thing to do, but it’s smart, too. You should assume you will be getting back together, and therefore it’s only logical that you wouldn’t want to build your new and improved relationship on lies.
The next part of the game plan is to review what went wrong. Be sure to get below the surface. You need to get to the root of the problem. Once you have a good idea of what really went wrong, you will be able to make it better. You will also be in a better position to avoid making the same mistakes again.
As the old song says, you need to “accentuate the positive”. Now, that doesn’t mean you should live in an imaginary world where nothing bad ever happens; that would be foolish. However, you should try to see the best qualities in your ex and give them the benefit of the doubt. By focusing on the things you love about them, you will be nurturing that love and help it to grow. What better way can there be to win love back?